I’m Done Apologizing for Crying

By Tana M. Mann Easton, Lead Efficiency Engineer

 

At the start of each new year, I reflect on what I want to do differently than the year before.  Sometimes I want to start something new.  But other times, I want to stop a habit that doesn’t serve me and only wastes my time and energy.  A habit that I see a lot in myself and in our culture in general that I think doesn’t serve us is apologizing when we cry.  Please note, crying is not the habit I want to stop.  I think crying is vulnerable, cathartic, beautiful, and human.  But apologizing for crying…now that is something that I personally want to stop doing and to encourage others to halt as well.  And this is why: 

 

Dear World, 

Please let this serve as my official notice that… 

I’m done apologizing for crying 

  

No more will I hold back my tears  

For any reason at all 

Whether I’m sad, mad, scared, hurt,  

Happy, or enthralled 

  

You see holding in my emotions  

Does me and the world no good 

My tears pull me back to my body and the present 

My tears are my humanhood. 

  

Crying is a way that my body expels the bad 

Crying is a release to work through the ugly mad 

Crying is my path through grief: its presence is a love sign 

Crying is a signal to me when I’m in the presence of the divine 

  

It’s present when I’m physically hurt 

It visits in any horror I see 

It’s there when I confront the beauty of the world 

It’s a friend that brings me to my knees 

  

I cry when I do well 

I cry when I fail 

I cry when I feel unconditional love 

To beauty it is the trail 

  

My tears are the manifestation  

Of my body and soul aligned 

So I’m done apologizing for crying 

And I hope you proceed in kind 

 

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Unapologetically Yours,  

Focus to Evolve Team  

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